Roaching
- “hiding that they're dating multiple people”
- “I found out he was seeing others the whole time”
- “the word for pretending to be exclusive”
- “is it cheating if we never defined it”
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RoachingvsEthical non-monogamy
The short answer
The same arrangement with opposite ethics. Ethical non-monogamy requires everyone involved to know and agree; roaching requires them not to. Seeing several people isn't the problem — letting one of them believe otherwise is.
Side by side
| Aspect | Roaching | Ethical non-monogamy |
|---|---|---|
| Others know? | No | Yes |
| Built on | Assumption | Agreement |
| Consent | Absent | Informed |
| Health risk shared? | Hidden | Discussed |
Which one you meant
Readers who land here meaning Roaching rather than Ethical non-monogamy are usually searching for phrases like “hiding that they're dating multiple people”, “I found out he was seeing others the whole time”, “the word for pretending to be exclusive”.
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