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Green flagvsRed flag

The short answer

A red flag is a reason to slow down or leave; a green flag is a reason to move closer. The important difference is that green flags are things a person actively does — not simply the absence of alarming behaviour.

Side by side

AspectGreen flagRed flag
Tells you toProceedStop
IsA trait presentA behaviour to fear
Age of the termRecentMid-1700s
ExampleApologises properlyNever apologises

Which one you meant

Readers who land here meaning Green Flag rather than Red flag are usually searching for phrases like “signs someone is actually good for you”, “the opposite of a red flag”, “what are green flags in dating”.

Green Flag

  • signs someone is actually good for you
  • the opposite of a red flag
  • what are green flags in dating
  • how do I know they're emotionally healthy

Where the confusion comes from

Green flag is as old as red flag.

Red flag as a warning dates to the mid-1700s. The relationship sense of green flag is a recent back-formation, popularised in the late 2010s and 2020s.

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