Managing your own feelings, and producing the display of them, because your job requires it and pays for it — Hochschild's 1983 term for feeling sold as part of a wage. Spelled emotional labour in British English. In wider use since the 2010s it also covers the same management done unpaid at home, a broadening Hochschild objects to.
Arlie Russell Hochschild, in The Managed Heart (1983), from fieldwork with flight attendants trained to produce warmth on demand and bill collectors trained to produce hostility.
// Where it sits
The further right, the less of your inner life is off the clock.
What it really means
Arlie Russell Hochschild chose two jobs for her 1983 fieldwork, and the pairing is the whole argument.
Flight attendants, who are required to seem warm. And bill collectors, who are required to seem hostile.
If the subject were jobs that are emotionally tiring, the second group makes no sense. Hochschild's subject was narrower and sharper: jobs where your feelings are part of what the employer bought. Warmth and hostility are the same transaction — a feeling rule, set by a company, that you are paid to satisfy.
She identified two ways people meet those rules. Surface acting — producing the display without the feeling, which is exhausting because you are running two states at once. And deep acting — actually inducing the feeling in yourself, which works better and costs more, because now the company has reached past your face.
The research since has come down hard on that distinction. Surface acting is reliably the expensive one, tied to exhaustion and to worse attitudes toward the job. Deep acting's clearer benefits turn out to land on performance and customer satisfaction — which is to say, on the employer. Which suggests something bleak and quite practical: the tiredness in service work is not caused by being nice. It is caused by being nice while feeling otherwise, several hundred times a day.
That is emotional labor: not the tiredness, but the commercialisation of feeling. Her subtitle says it directly.
And then the word left the building.
By the 2010s the term had come to mean, in common use, the unpaid domestic version — remembering birthdays, managing a partner's moods, carrying the household's administrative and emotional load. Which is a real and badly under-described thing, and it is not what she named.
Hochschild has said so. In 2018 she objected publicly — "Really, I'm horrified" — that the broadening made the thinking blurrier. The phrase concept creep was that interviewer's, and it stuck.
The irritating part is that she had already named the other thing. In her scheme, the unpaid private-life version is emotion work. Two terms, distinguished on purpose, and the language kept one word and used it for both.
Which costs something specific. The original term made a claim about employment — that a wage can buy your inner life, and that this is a distinct thing to have sold. Stretch it to cover all interpersonal effort and that claim quietly disappears, which is a strange fate for a book called The Managed Heart.
(Spelled emotional labour in British English. Hochschild is American; the term is the same.)
Where it comes from
The pairing is deliberately economic. LABOR is what gets sold. Hochschild's term for the same activity done unpaid in private life is 'emotion work' — a different word, on purpose.
Myths & misconceptions
Emotional labor means remembering birthdays and managing a partner's moods — the household mental load.
In Hochschild's definition it is PAID work. The unpaid private-sphere version has its own name in her scheme: 'emotion work'. She has said the broadening makes the concept blurrier, and calls its application to to-do lists and perfect Christmases an overextension.
It just means a job is emotionally draining.
The criterion is FEELING RULES imposed by an employer, met by one of two techniques — surface acting, where you fake the display, or deep acting, where you induce the actual feeling. The point is not that the work is tiring; it is that your feelings are part of what was bought.
It's always harmful.
The strategy matters. Surface acting — faking the display while feeling otherwise — is consistently linked to exhaustion. Deep acting is not tied to exhaustion the same way, though meta-analysis finds its links to wellbeing and job satisfaction are weak, and its clearer benefits land on performance and customer satisfaction rather than on the worker.
Emotional labor and emotional labour are different things.
They are the same term in two spellings. Hochschild, an American writer, used 'labor'; British and Commonwealth writing uses 'labour'. This page answers to both.
Compare & contrast
Emotional labor vs the mental load
Both describe invisible effort, but they were coined for different arenas. Emotional labor is paid work under an employer's display rules; the mental load is the unpaid domestic work of remembering, planning and organising a household. The words get used interchangeably online, which blurs a useful distinction.
| // | Emotional labor | The mental load |
|---|---|---|
| Where | At work | At home |
| Paid? | Yes | No |
| Rules set by | An employer | Nobody, explicitly |
| Named by | Hochschild, 1983 | Later usage |
Emotional labor vs emotion work
Same activity, different economy. Emotion work is done for people you love; emotional labor is done for a wage, under an employer's rules about what you must appear to feel. Hochschild drew that line herself and still defends it.
| // | Emotional labor | Emotion work |
|---|---|---|
| Paid | Yes | No |
| Rules set by | An employer | Nobody, or both of you |
| Can be refused | Not easily | In principle |
| Hochschild's term for it | This one | That one |
How it connects
- Quiet Quittingwithdrawing the emotional effort a job expects but does not buy is a large part of what quiet quitting actually describes.
- People Pleasingthe same management of other people's comfort — one required by a job, one by fear.
- Presenteeismthe other work term for a cost that never appears in any measurement.
Tell it apart
Questions people ask
- Is it emotional labor or emotional labour?
- Both, and they mean the same thing. Hochschild is American and coined it as 'emotional labor'; British and Commonwealth writing spells it 'labour'.
- Is doing the dishes emotional labor?
- Not in the original sense — that is unpaid domestic work. Hochschild's term covers feeling managed for an employer, and she has a separate term, 'emotion work', for the private-life version.
- What's the difference between surface acting and deep acting?
- Surface acting changes only what's visible — you smile while feeling nothing of the sort. Deep acting changes the feeling itself. The meta-analytic evidence is lopsided: surface acting is reliably the costly one, tied to exhaustion and worse job attitudes, while deep acting's clearer positive associations are with emotional performance and customer satisfaction — benefits to the employer more than to you.
- Does Hochschild approve of the popular usage?
- Not fully. She told The Atlantic she is 'horrified' by the broadening: 'I love the idea that people are exploring the realm, and so I welcome that, but I guess I don't like the blurriness of the thinking.' The phrase 'concept creep' is her interviewer's, and it stuck.
- Is emotional labor bad for you?
- It's demanding rather than automatically harmful — and how you do it matters more than how much. A scoping review concluded that while emotional labor improves service performance for the organisation, it causes more harm than benefit for the employee. If it's leaving you persistently exhausted, that's worth raising with a doctor or a mental-health professional; this page is educational and not a diagnosis.